Thursday, September 16, 2010

Valid Point

Those who know me know that I decry external validation (see posts here and here). Yes, it feels good, but I loathe it. I particularly despise smarmy, pat, trite garbage like, "Oh, you're so wonderful!" without some detailed backup. However, I had an epiphany while watching the attached short film. I'll try to keep this post short so you'll have time to watch the film. It's well worth it.

It's not money that is the root of all evil, it's the love of money. Similarly, it's not external validation that is despicable, but the need for it. Truthfully, there's really nothing wrong with external validation (unless it's given in an obsequiously sniveling manner, but this isn't a sycophant rant). So, I was wrong to be so disparaging about it. What really bothered me wasn't EV, but my addiction to it (I'm so over that now!), and because for me, it tends to go hand in hand with self doubt.

Validation, like love, is only as good as what you give of it. So, validate someone today. Let someone know what you like about them. Compliment someone on a job well done. Be sincere. Make 'em smile. You might just be the only person to come along and do that for them.

Now, grab a cup o' bean, or a snack or whatever, and settle in to watch 15 minutes of film that will change your life...

2 comments:

  1. THANK YOU for this.

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  2. You were right - the movie was very much worth watching. Another post that has me thinking...

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