Tuesday, April 1, 2014

A is for Adore

This month I am participating in the A to Z Blogging Challenge. Today, April 1, we begin with the letter "A".

verb: to regard with the utmost esteem, love, and respect; to honor

In the book Dinner at the Homesick Restaurant, Anne Tyler writes, "There ought to be a whole separate language, she thought, for words that are truer than other words - for perfect absolute truth."

As a writer, and as a reader, I often find my thoughts drifting toward that quote. So many times I write, thinking, I'm not saying exactly what I mean to say. It isn't, as Tyler wishes, perfect absolute truth. That feeling is never more prevalent when I refer to love, and especially the love that I feel for my mate.

I can fling clichés all over the place that nail my feelings for him, but also somehow fall short and... well... sound cliché. I'm crazy for him. I'm head over heels for him. He makes the sun rise. Every day with him is like Christmas. I love him. All are true statements, but none of them the perfect absolute truth.

Let's face it, there are lots and lots of people that I love. By love I don't mean a generic, I love everybody (which, I nearly do were it not for a handful who just make it so damned difficult). I mean, there are people I love - people I identify as being part of my tribe; people I'd drop my cup of coffee and chocolate for in order to be there for them; people who affect my life in such a way that I can't imagine it without them. That kind of love. I feel it all the time. But, the love I feel for my mate? There's something esoteric there (as there should be), that I haven't been able, wordsmith that I am, to put into words. To say with perfect absolute truth.

The other day I was thumbing through the dictionary. If you know me at all, you know that's just who I am and you'll love me anyway. So, then. I was thumbing through the dictionary and came across the word adore. I'm not sure I've ever looked at the definition of it. This time I did, and nearly burst into tears as I proclaimed to my art supplies and bookshelves, "That's IT! That's perfect absolute truth for how I feel about him!"

Adore fits. It's right. It's right in terms of how I feel and it's right in terms of how I want to be perceived and understood whenever I talk about him. He is an impressive human being, but in my life, which I'm blessed enough to say is full of impressive human beings, he is the one I hold in utmost esteem, because I know he holds my heart with more reverence than anyone else in this world. He is the one I love beyond all others. He is the one I respect, not so much because of who he is to me, but because of who he is to others. His kindness isn't just for me; his willingness is unflagging; he shares his intelligence; his sense of humor knows no bounds; his humanity stretches to everyone he meets. I told you, he is an impressive human being. It is my honor, not just to choose him, but to be chosen by him.

I adore him, in all the vast depth of that word. I adore him.

That is the perfect absolute truth.


  1. Isn't it great when you find the perfect word? Great start to A-Z.

  2. Adoration is a powerful feeling and emotion. Being adorable or adored makes one feel so special. Your picture is so vibrant and full of energy. The reds make it stand out, while the hints of blues soften it. Welcome to the A to Z Challenge :)

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  3. Barb, you have a way of leaving me speechless with your posts and this one is included. It's such a gorgeous thing to love and be loved, but to adore and be adored? Well that's the moon and the stars and beyond. Wonderful post. I really enjoyed this. Challenge or no challenge, thank you for posting this :-)

  4. Love your post! You're very very blessed. I know you know that you are in a small minority of blissfully happy couples. It was nice to read how you feel about him and how you revere him. That's beautiful.

  5. Beautiful post. I sometimes search for the right word too. I guess adore would work, I still like him after 32 years.

  6. Aren't words grand?! I love when I find the perfect word to describe the moment, etc. Love your art too! Cheers http://perspectiveofawriter.wordpress.com/2014/04/01/a-agemaki/

  7. I don't know why the comment I posted 2 days ago didn't show up. I just wanted to say that this post is heartwarming and it gives me hope :)


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